Change

Adapt, cope, remain flexible and foster a positive attitude amidst life's ups and downs.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Forget









To study the way is to study oneself.
To study oneself is to forget oneself.
To forget oneself is to be enlightened by the ten thousand things.”
- Dogen Zenji, 13th century Japanese Zen Buddhist monk






Friday, April 9, 2010

It would be smart for a self-employed person to treat thier own self so gently.

http://inspirationfactor.wordpress.com/

7 Phrases Every Boss Needs to Practice


1. I misspoke, I was wrong. Please forgive me and I promise I will learn from this and be a better leader in the future.

2. I need you. I know my limitations and you bring something to the table that I just do not possess.

3. I see real potential in you to be….

4. I am committed to your success.

5. Thank you for your contribution to our mission.

6. Let’s turn our mistakes and dissapointments into a teachable moment.

7. I might change mission and direction based on new information, but, I promise I will never, never, never change the vision.

Lifeclass for Crisis









FeaturesLifeclass: My five steps to happiness


After almost four years, Lesley Garner has decided to take a break from giving her advice column Lifeclass.

Here she offers some final tips for life.

By Lesley Garner
Published: 23 Mar 2010




Lesley Garner Photo: ANDREW CROWLEY Dear Readers

This has been a very intense job and, although this page is called Lifeclass, I feel that I am the one who has

been learning from you.


After nearly four years as the recipient of every kind of dilemma, from post-traumatic stress and the harm

done by internet porn to more perennial woes such as the loss of marital love or that perpetual cry, “Have I

left it too late?” I am addressing my own dilemma by taking some time out.

My dilemma has been this: I have a very responsible job for The Daily Telegraph which, so you tell me, helps

an awful lot of people and which nobody wants me to leave. On the other hand, there are other things I would

like to do and, in particular, other kinds of writing I would like to experiment with.

I am currently a student on a novel-writing course at the Faber Academy. My fellow students and I are lucky

enough to benefit from the wisdom and the experience of writers such as Esther Freud, Rachel Cusk and Hanif

Kureishi. But while we love to hear what these writers have to say, our real challenge is to use the craft of

fiction to create worlds of our own and, perhaps, make sense of our own lives.

Since the life stories I hear from you every week leave little room in my head or heart for inventing and

developing life stories of my own, I have decided to step back from this page for a while in order to give

myself a chance. And what about you? How will you manage without me? Well, I imagine you will do whatever you

were doing before I came along, but in case this isn’t good enough I have some suggestions on how to be your

own agony aunt in my absence.


1 Do not do anything alone

One of the many valuable lessons I have learnt on this page is that there is nothing so difficult,

exceptional, demanding or painful that somebody else isn’t going through it too.

You are not the only teenager who wonders if he is gay or why he has no friends. You are not the only parents

of soldiers who gnaw away at your own worries and fears in private. You are not the only man whose wife has

told him she needs space, or the only wife whose husband seems to have changed character. You are not the only

person sitting alone and wondering if you have left it too late to find somebody special.

Your troubles will be halved if you reach out to other people and share your sorrows. You can do this both by

talking to friends and through the many organisations that cater for every kind of human difficulty, from

bereavement and unemployment to marriage problems.


2 Be your own researcher

How do you find other people who are going through what you are going through? The internet is king. Many days

I have sat for hours on Google typing in “help for old people”, “midlife crisis”, “celibacy” or

“co?dependency” and reeled at the amount and quality of information available at the press of a button.

Your local Citizens Advice Bureau is a useful source of information on all kinds of legal, financial, even

emotional problems. Relate (www.relate.org.uk) offers advice in family relationships. The Royal College of

Psychiatrists (www.rcpsych.org.uk) is an excellent hub of information on all kinds of mental illness and its

treatment. Carers can find help and advice on www.carers.org. People concerned about their own old age or the

care of their parents can find help via www.ageconcern.org.uk.

If you feel lonely and don’t know what the social life is like in your area, Google the town you live in and

go on to www.meetup.com to find social and educational groups.


3 Use self-help books

Yes, really. I have written some, so I am bound to say this, but some are invaluable. If you don’t know which

of the many titles available is right for you, check out Tom Butler-Bowden’s useful series, 50 Self-Help

Classics, 50 Psychological Classics, and 50 Spiritual Classics. These are succinct summaries of a large number

of books and you will certainly find one that seems to match your own understanding of your problem and state

of mind.

And, of course, I highly recommend my own books. Everything I’ve Ever Done That Worked is being reprinted in a

lovely new edition this spring and is full of my own tips on changing your state of mind, your fortunes and

your life. For anybody struggling with relationships I recommend my book Everything I’ve Ever Learned About

Love?; for life’s inevitable ups and downs, Everything I’ve Ever Learned About Change?; and for readers who

would like to remind themselves of some of the problems that have gone through these pages and my solutions to

them, Life Lessons.


4 Lighten up

Oh, heaven knows this is easier said than done. If you could lighten up, you wouldn’t be writing to somebody

like me, but nobody’s emotional toolbox is complete without some simple exercises to break the circuits of

misery and regain some perspective. Even in the midst of grief and torment, people can gain equanimity in very

small ways by watching comedy on TV, by going for a walk, by looking up at the clouds, by gardening or

birdwatching, singing or dancing.

Everything I’ve Ever Done That Worked has lots of useful suggestions for mood-shifting. A very wise woman once

told me to imagine that I was seven years old. I find that if I do, life immediately looks a lot more amusing

and carefree.


5 Do something different

I realised early on that many people’s problem is simply that they have walked themselves round and round in

the same old circle until they are stuck and have lost all perspective on their situation. My sole

contribution is to look down from my bird’s-eye view and show them what the nature of their problem actually

is.

You can learn to do this for yourself if you recognise exactly when you are repeating a piece of behaviour or

an argument. Repetition leads to obsession and obsession doesn’t solve anything.

If madness is doing the same thing and expecting a different result, then sanity is saying to yourself, “I

choose to walk in another direction.” Do not engage in the same repetitive arguments. Remain silent and let

people vent their feelings. Do a lot more listening than talking. Get out more. Practise changing your brain

patterns by walking a different way to work or trying on clothes you might normally avoid. Being stuck is

miserable and unproductive. Cultivate ways to be more playful and silly and the gloom often shifts.

I could say so much more – and over the past four years I have – but I have also learnt that people only take

in limited suggestions or information at a time. And often, despite my best endeavours, I suspect they carry

on doing exactly what they were doing before. It doesn’t do to have too elevated an idea of one’s own

importance – that’s another thing I have learnt from you.

I hope to write for you again in these pages in the future, if not exactly in this very special role. In the

meantime, thank you more than I can say for trusting and confiding in me. I truly wish all of you happy and

resourceful lives.


With love from Lesley



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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Affirmations For Artists

"I will be organized. To that end, I will take stock and see what organization I really need. I will not stop at straightening my desk, but will better organize my thoughts and more clearly envision the great work I intend to do. I will risk re-organizing the pieces that comrise the puzzle of my life."

Eric Maisel

Monday, March 8, 2010

Simplicity



'simplicity is the outcome of technical subtlety; it is the goal, not starting point'.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Sanskrit Proverb

Look at this day, for it is life, the very life of life.

In its brief course lie all the realities and verities of existence, the bliss of growth, the splendor of action, the glory of power.

For yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision, but today, well lived, makes every day a dream, a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Look well, therefore, to this day.

CHANGE IS A CONSTANT

EMBRACE CHANGE:

R. Tagore says,  If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars.




Saturday, October 3, 2009

The Seven Terrors of the World

INTRODUCTION:
A new report highlights the biggest problems now facing the world. It warns that the environmental crisis is deepening every year. Human consumption is now 30% larger than nature’s capacity to regenerate. By 2015 the number of people suffering climate-related disasters could mushroom to more than 375 million a year. By 2030 as many as 660 million people could be affected, with economic losses rising to $340 billion a year. There are currently 15 wars taking place and the report predicts that 3 billion people will have no access to water by 2025. Exclusive report by environment editor Rob Edward


The Seven Terrors of the World

The world is facing a series of interlinked crises which threatens billions of people and could cause the collapse of civilisation, according to an international report out this week.
Climate pollution, food shortages, diseases, wars, disasters, crime and the recession are all conspiring to ravage the globe and threaten the future of humanity, it warns. Democracy, human rights and press freedom are also suffering.
The report, called 2009 State Of The Future, has been compiled by the Millennium Project, an international think-tank based in Washington DC, and involved 2700 experts from 30 countries.
"Half the world appears vulnerable to social instability and violence," the report says. "This is due to rising unemployment and decreasing food, water and energy supplies, coupled with the disruptions caused by global warming and mass migrations."
The project has been backed by organisations including United Nations agencies, the Rockefeller Foundation, private companies and governments. It provides "invaluable insights into the future for the United Nations, its member states, and civil society," according to the UN Secretary-General, Ban Ki-moon.
The report's bleakest warning is on the dangers of the climate chaos being caused by pollution. It also highlights the 15 wars taking place in the world. It further predicts there could be three billion people without access to adequate water by 2025.
the people in the world are at risk of several endemic diseases," "About half it says. These include HIV/Aids, swine flu, drug-resistant superbugs and a string of new infections.
The global income from the proceeds of international crime is reckoned to be around $3 trillion.
"Democracy and freedom have declined for the third year in a row, and press freedoms declined for the seventh year in a row," the report says. The global recession was caused by "too many greedy and deceitful decisions", it argues, but there were now some signs that humanity was growing out of its "selfish, self-centred adolescence".

1: Environment
The most serious danger is the pollution that is affecting the climate, the report says. Every day the world's oceans absorb 30 million tonnes of carbon dioxide, increasing their acidity.
The number of dead zones - areas like La Jolla off the coast of San Diego, which have too little oxygen to support life - has doubled every decade since the 1960s.
The oceans are warming about 50% faster than the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change reported in 2007, while the amount of ice flowing out of Greenland last summer was nearly three times more than the previous year. Summer ice in the Arctic could disappear by 2030, the report warns.
"Over 36 million hectares of primary forest are lost every year," it says. "Human consumption is 30% larger than nature's capacity to regenerate, and demand on the planet has more than doubled over the past 45 years."
The strains these changes will put on the world include floods, droughts and storms.
"This important report puts climate change up there with the major economic, social and political challenges that the human race faces," said Dr Richard Dixon, director of WWF Scotland. "Whether you are worried about food security, the threat of war or mass migration, climate change is going to make things worse."
The Millennium Project report argues that combating climate change requires a 10-year programme by the US and China equivalent to the Apollo moon mission launched in 1961.
Other environmental problems are highlighted, including toxic waste dumping. About 70% of the world's 50 million tonnes of annual electronic waste is dumped in developing countries in Asia and Africa, much of it illegally. A quarter of all fish stocks are over-harvested, the report says, and 80% cannot withstand increased fishing.

2: Food and water
A global food crisis may be "inevitable", the report warns, because of an obscure fungus called Ug99 which causes stem rust on plants. It is threatening to wipe out more than 80% of the world's wheat crops, and it could take up to 12 years to develop resistant strains of wheat.
Food prices rose by 52% between 2007 and 2008, while the cost of fertiliser has nearly doubled in the past year. Meanwhile, 30%-40% of food production is lost in many poor countries because of a lack of adequate storage facilities.
Nearly a billion people are undernourished and hungry, while 700 million face water scarcity - this could hit three billion by 2025, the report warns. The world's population is expected to grow from the current 6.8 billion to 9.2 billion by 2050 - and could reach 11 billion.
"Christian Aid's partners in developing countries are already reporting that water is hard to find," said Claire Aston, acting head of Christian Aid Scotland. "The idea that three billion people will be in this position as a result of climate change by 2030 is a frightening prospect."
Water shortages are also being worsened by the growing global consumption of meat. The report predicts demand for meat may rise by 50% by 2025 and double by 2050.

3: Disease
About 17 million people - nine million of them young children - are killed by infectious diseases every year, according to the report.
Half of the world's population is at risk from endemic diseases, with TB, malaria and HIV/Aids together causing more than 300 million illnesses and five million deaths a year.
The number of people living with HIV/Aids is estimated at between 30 million and 36 million, two-thirds in sub-Saharan Africa.
The dangers from other diseases seem to be getting worse, too. Over the past 40 years, 39 infectious diseases have been discovered, and in the last five years more than 1100 epidemics have been verified. There are up to 20 new strains of "superbugs", such as MRSA, that are difficult to counter, while three-quarters of emerging pathogens have the ability to jump species.
Old diseases such as cholera, yellow fever, plague, dengue fever, haemorrhagic fever and diphtheria are re-emerging, not to mention new strains, like the H1N1 swine flu virus.
"Massive urbanisation, increased encroachment on animal territory, and concentrated livestock production could trigger new pandemics," the report cautions.
"Climate change is altering insect and disease patterns. Other problems may come from synthetic biology laboratories."

4: Wars and disasters
More than two billion people have been affected by the world's 35 wars and 2500 natural disasters over the last nine years, the report says. By mid-2009, there were 15 conflicts raging around the globe - one more than in 2008. Four wars were taking place in Africa, four in Asia, four in the Middle East, two in the Americas and one, against terrorism, internationally.
"A pending unknown is whether Iran and North Korea will trigger a nuclear arms race," the report says. "Another more distant spectre, but possibly even a greater threat, is that of single individuals acting alone to create and deploy weapons of mass destruction."
The Iraq war has left behind an environmental catastrophe of 25 million land mines, hazardous waste, polluted water and depleted uranium contamination. "It will take centuries to restore the natural environment of Iraq," said the country's environment minister, Nermeen Othman.
The number and intensity of natural disasters is increasing, the report says. In 2008 there were a total of 354 disasters with an estimated 214 million victims, 80% of them in Asia.
Increasing climate chaos could exacerbate the damage wrought by natural disasters and see the number of people suffering grow to 375 million a year by 2015 and 660 million by 2030. Economic losses could reach $340 billion a year.
"The world has moved from a global threat once called the cold war, to what now should be considered the warming war," said Afelee Pita, the UN ambassador from Tuvalu, a small, low-lying island in the Pacific Ocean.
The report also reveals the world recently escaped a potentially planet-ending event.
"In March 2009 an asteroid missed Earth by 77,000 kilometres," it says. "If it had hit Earth, it would have wiped out all life on 800 square kilometres. No-one knew it was coming."

5: Crime
Organised crime is very big business, according to the Millennium Project report, with an income of $3 trillion a year. That's twice as much as all the world's military budgets combined. This includes more than $1 trillion paid in bribes to corrupt officials, and maybe another $1 trillion from cybercrime thefts. Counter feiting and piracy could bring in at least $300bn, the global drug trade $321bn, human trafficking $44bn and illegal weapons sales $10bn.
"Governments can be understood as a series of decision points, with some people in those points vulnerable to very large bribes," the report says. "Decisions could be bought and sold like heroin, making democracy an illusion."
Shockingly, there are reckoned to be between 14 million and 27 million people still being held in slavery, the vast majority of them in Asia. This is more than at the peak of the African slave trade.
The report argues that the world is beginning to wake up to the "enormity of the threat of transnational organised crime". The UN Office on Drugs and Crime has called on all states to develop a coherent strategy, but efforts are still piecemeal.
The 2009 G8 meeting of justice and home affairs ministers explored anti-crime strategies, and in June the US launched the International Organised Crime Intelligence and Operations Centre.
"Meanwhile, transnational organised crime continues to expand in the absence of a comprehensive, integrated global counter-strategy," observes the report.

6: Human rights
Freedom and democracy are waning, the report reveals. They have declined for the third year in a row, with press freedoms worsening for the seventh year in a row.
In 2008, democracy declined in 34 countries, and only improved in 14. Just 17% of the world's population lives in 70 countries with a free press, while 42% lives in 64 countries with no free press.
According to the Economist Intelligence Unit, 14.4% of humanity enjoys full democracy, while 35% live under authoritarian regimes. "Democratic forces will have to work harder to make sure that the short-term reversals do not stop the longer-term trend of democratisation," the report says.
Women account for more than 40% of the world's workforce but earn less than 25% of the wages and own only 1% of the assets, it found.
"Many countries still have laws and cultures that deny women basic human rights," the report states. "Gender equity is essential for the development of a healthy society and is one of the most effective ways to address all the other global challenges."
The human rights organisation Amnesty International warns that the recession is having a "devastating impact" on the world's poor, driving more and more people into poverty, unemployment and homelessness.
"The recession is also leading to repression of people who are desperate," said Amnesty's Scottish programme director, John Watson. "It is creating new tensions between governments and vulnerable people."

7: Science and technology
The Millennium Report warns that, due to the staggering rate of technological advances, politicians and the public need a "global collective intelligence system" to track the effects of such rapid changes. Contingency plans need to be prepared by governments in case the speed of development has a "highly negative impact" on the human race.
Although advances in science and technology are increasing the chances of major breakthroughs in medicine, computing and biotechnology, these breakthroughs come with a health warning as we are unsure what the flipside may be. Some experts speculate that civilisation is heading for a "singularity", the report says. This would mean that "technological change is so fast and significant that we today are incapable of conceiving what life might be like beyond the year 2025".
The electronics company IBM has promised a computer capable of performing 20,000 trillion calculations per second by 2011 - just like Hal, above, from 2001: A Space Odyssey - roughly equivalent to the speed of the human brain.


On the upside, the boom in power generated by wind turbines and other renewable sources has been unprecedented. For the first time in 2008 the majority of the increase in electricity production in the US and the European Union came from renewable sources.
"Mobile phones, the internet, international trade, language translation and jet planes are giving birth to an interdependent humanity that can create and implement global strategies to improve the prospects for humanity."