Mark Twain

"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."

- Mark Twain

Saturday, December 28, 2013

The Unstoppable Human Spirit: Cpl Todd Love, US Marine who lost 3 limbs in Afghanistan, completed grueling 10-mile Spartan Race

Photo courtesy of Kevin High Photography
Photo courtesy of Kevin High Photography

In making New Years Resolutions these guys can offer inspiration to all of us.

The Unstoppable Human Spirit is the best description of what drives such a person to rise to new challenges.  

In spite of the grave situation this man faces, he does not give-up on himself ; instead he takes on new challenges, such as this grueling ten mile obstacle course... or even wrestling an alligator!

When Cpl. Love is not involved in an iron man competitions, skiing, surfing, or skydiving, he wrestles alligators in Florida
When Cpl. Love is not involved in an iron man competitions, skiing, surfing, or skydiving, he wrestles alligators in Florida


Cpl Todd Love, US Marine who lost 3 limbs in Afghanistan, completed grueling 10-mile Spartan Race

Strength: Triple amputee and Marine Corporal Todd Love makes his way to the finish line of The Beast event of the Spartan Race

Todd Love, Leesburg, VA - Super Spartan


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Thursday, December 26, 2013


"In the argument over the what and the when, I believe the what will invariably win over the when."  Taking the Long View, Jean Riboud, CEO, Slumberger

Feeling the pure joy of work and success - jumping out of bed in the morning charged up to accomplish something in the day ahead - is necessary for an entrepreneur.
- T. Boone Pickens

I hate to fail, but when it's time to take a bath, I get in the tub...
- T. Boone Pickens


Gerald Loeb:

The person who studies a problem from every angle and defines the risks, aims and possibilities correctly before he starts is more than halfway to his goal.

Diversification is necessary for beginners but the real great fortunes were made by concentration.

In the end, we are judged by our contribution.


 Small attempts repeated, will complete any undertaking...

The virtue of prosperity is temperance; the virtue of adversity is fortitude. -Francis
Bacon, 1625

"If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them."
—Henry David Thoreau: American author, poet, and philosopher

The more confused you are about what your goals are, the more likely you are to make a mistake.

There is nowhere we can go to hide from our mind.
- Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche

Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant. 
Robert Louis Stevenson 

« Wisdom is learning what to overlook. » William James

« I advise you to say your dream is possible and then overcome all inconveniences. » Les Brown

Aim at Heaven and you will get Earth thrown in; aim at Earth and you will get neither. —  C.S. Lewis

Wherever you go, there you are.  

- Jon Kabat Zinn,

Change has to come for life to struggle forward. ― Helen Hollick

I am done with the past, the future has plenty of room for change.

« An unjust peace is better than a just war. » Cicero

"It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you'll do things differently." Warren Buffett

A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes. - Mohandas Gandhi

What areas are CEOs getting coaching in? The priorities of CEOs and boards often differ.

Friday, December 20, 2013

A Dance to the Music of Time


“Time is but the stream I go a-fishing in.”

 Henry David Thoreau quotes (American Essayist, Poet and Philosopher, 1817-1862)


Still busy "In Search of Lost Time" and "A Dance to the Music of Time" becomes something else about time to worry about.  

Is it a phenomena of getting on in years that makes time start to move so quickly?

Time is all we have.  We can't buy more.  It never slows down so we can catch up with it.  It is hard to define even though we can measure it.

Time is free but it is priceless.  You cannot own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back.
A Dance to the Music of Time

Painter  Nicolas Poussin
Year 1634-1635
Type  Oil on canvas
Dimensions 82.5 cm × 104 cm (32.5 in × 41 in)
Location The Wallace Collection, London


A Dance to the Music of Time (painting)

Four figures, holding each other by the hand, dance in a circle, as Time plays a lyre on the right.

The scene is set in the early morning, with Aurora, goddess of dawn, preceding the chariot of Apollo the sun-god in the sky behind; the Hours accompany him and he holds a ring representing the Zodiac.

According to Bellori, Rospigliosi's original idea was inspired by Boitet de Frauville's
'Les Dionysiaques', which describes the passing of time and the cycle of the seasons.

According to this story, the god Jupiter (Greek Zeus) gave Bacchus and wine to the world in order to compensate for the miserable living conditions mortals must endure after Time and the Seasons complained.

The male dancer with the crown of twigs was originally intended to represent the god Bacchus as well as the season Autumn, followed by Winter, Spring and Summer.

As Poussin developed the painting, however, this theme gradually transformed into the concept of the cycle of life and fortune.

Today it is widely accepted that Dance to the Music of Time was meant to represent the passing of time, and the different stages of life on the rapidly revolving wheel of fortune: poverty, labor, wealth, and pleasure.

Poverty is the male figure at the very back of the circle, with his back turned towards the viewer. He dances barefoot, in keeping with his humble status, and looks longingly towards Labor, his dancing partner on the right.

Labor, a muscular young woman also dancing barefoot whose bare shoulders and covered hair indicate her hard work, eagerly twists to grasp Wealth's hand.

Wealth, dancing in golden sandals and robes, disdainfully takes Labor's hand and gazes outward with haughty self-propriety.

Finally, Pleasure gazes knowingly at the viewer with a sly smirk.

Link:  A Dance to the Music of Time



Last Modified On: April 29, 2007

The following poem was not found in an old Baltimore church:

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.....
Deteriorata! Deteriorata!

Go placidly
Amid the noise and waste.
And remember what comfort there may be
In owning a piece thereof.

Avoid quiet and passive persons
Unless you are in need of sleep.

Ro-tate your tires.
Speak glowingly of those greater than yourself
And heed well their advice,
Even though they be turkeys.

Know what to kiss.....and when!
Consider that two wrongs never make a right
But that

Wherever possible, put people on hold.

Be comforted that in the face of all aridity and disillusionment
And despite the changing fortunes of time,
There is always a big future in computer main-te-nance.

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not
The universe is laughing behind your back.

Remember the Pueblo.

Strive at all times to bend, fold, spindle and mu-ti-late.

Know yourself.
If you need help, call the FBI.

Exercise caution in your daily affairs,
Especially with those persons closest to you.
That lemon on your left, for instance.

Be assured that a walk through the ocean of most souls
Would scarcely get your feet wet.

Fall not in love therefore;
It will stick to your face.

Gracefully surrender the things of youth:
The birds, clean air, tuna, Taiwan
And let not the sands of time
Get in your lunch.

Hire people with hooks.

For a good time call 606-4311;
Ask for "Ken."

Take heart amid the deepening gloom
That your dog is finally getting enough cheese.

And reflect that whatever misfortune may be your lot
It could only be worse in Milwaukee.

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not
The universe is laughing behind your back.

Therefore, make peace with your god
Whatever you conceive him to be---
Hairy thunderer, or cosmic muffin.

With all its hopes, dreams, promises and urban renewal
The world continues to deteriorate.

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not
The universe is laughing behind your back.

Performed by National Lampoon on "National Lampoon Radio Dinner," a 1972 recording by Blue Thumb Records. Lyrics by Tony Hendra.




The Original


Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world in full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is: many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Often attributed as "Found in Old Saint Paul's Church, Baltimore: Dated 1692."
Actually, Desiderata was written in 1927 by an obscure Indiana lawyer and poet named Max Ehrmann. Sources include: The Washington Post, November 27, 1977. 


Saturday, November 30, 2013

Necessary Changes

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The more severe the pain or illness, the more severe will be the necessary changes.  These may involve breaking bad habits, or acquiring some new ones.

For many, negative thinking is a habit, which over time, becomes an addiction... A lot of people suffer from this disease because negative thinking is addictive to each of the Big Three -- the mind, the body, and the emotions. If one doesn't get you, the others are waiting in the wings.

The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.  JKZ

"The very substance of the ambitious is merely the shadow of a dream." -William Shakespeare

“If you don't feel it, flee from it. Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated.” ― Paul F. Davis

"And the Day came when the risk it took to remain tight in a bud, was even more painful then the risk it took to blossom"- Anis Nin

Monday, November 11, 2013

Life is short.

What is Life?

It is the flash of a firefly in the night.

It is the breath of a buffalo in the winter time.

It is the little shadow which runs across the grass
and loses itself in the Sunset."

 Crowfoot on his deathbed, April 1890

Friday, November 1, 2013

Changing Times

The more things change, the more they remain the same
~ Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr

"We become what we think about all day long." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Pema Chödrön: Change Means We Are Alive

May 20, 2013
A leading exponent of teachings on meditation and how they apply to everyday life, Pema Chödrön is widely known for her insightful, down-to-earth interpretation of Tibetan Buddhism for Western audiences. She reminds us that although our mind perceives things as being fixed, everything is, in fact, changing all the time. Life is so fluid it's more like being in a river rather than standing on solid ground. It's this change that offers unlimited possibility for freshness and uniqueness.

Register today for the live stream of Pema's next retreat, Walk the Walk, and experience Pema Chödrön from anywhere.

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Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Saturday, September 28, 2013

LIFE Behind the Picture: Pablo Picasso ‘Draws’ With Light





 When LIFE magazine’s Gjon Mili, a technical prodigy and lighting innovator, visited Pablo Picasso in the South of France in 1949, it was clear that the meeting of these two artists and craftsmen was bound to result in something extraordinary. Mili showed Picasso some of his photographs of ice skaters with tiny lights affixed to their skates, jumping in the dark — and the Spanish genius’s ever-stirring mind began to race.

“Picasso” LIFE magazine reported at the time, “gave Mili 15 minutes to try one experiment. He was so fascinated by the result that he posed for five sessions, projecting 30 drawings of centaurs, bulls, Greek profiles and his signature. Mili took his photographs in a darkened room, using two cameras, one for side view, another for front view. By leaving the shutters open, he caught the light streaks swirling through space.”

This series of photographs, known ever since as Picasso’s “light drawings,” were made with a small electric light in a darkened room; in effect, the images vanished as soon as they were created — and yet they still live, six decades later, in Mili’s playful, hypnotic images. Many of them were also put on display in early 1950 in a show at New York’s Museum of Modern Art.
Finally, while the “Picasso draws a centaur in the air” photo that leads off this gallery is rightly celebrated, many of the images in this gallery are far less well-known — in fact, many of them never ran in the magazine. But they are no less thrilling, after all these years, than the iconic picture of the archetypal creative genius of the 20th century crafting, on the fly, an at-once fleeting and enduring work of art.
A note on the last image in the gallery: An excerpt from a 1968 special issue of LIFE, devoted entirely to Picasso, describes a typical scene at his home: “Putting on a mask is sometimes enough to set Picasso off into a kind of witch-doctor frenzy. He roars and writhes behind his gorilla mask, dances away to the mirror, returns in a rubber devil’s mask to swoop down on his daughter Paloma. Picasso was one of the first European artists to recognize the magic and beauty of African masks, and his own masks show the enduring power of that early influence.”
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A Simple Philosophy

“To ensure good health: eat lightly, breathe deeply, live moderately, cultivate cheerfulness, and maintain an interest in life.”

-William Londen

Embrace Change

The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress
– Charles F. Kettering

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
- Socrates

"What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step."
- C. S. Lewis

An investment in life is an investment in change... When you are changing all the time, you've got to continue to keep adjusting to change, which means that you are going to be constantly facing new obstacles. That's the joy of living. And once you're involved in the process of becoming, there is no stopping.
- Leo F. Buscaglia

"All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy, for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another."
- Anatole France

"Become a student of change. It is the only thing that will remain constant."
- Anthony D'Angelo'

Elizabeth Loftus: The fiction of memory

 Elizabeth Loftus: The fiction of memory

Psychologist Elizabeth Loftus studies memories. More precisely, she studies false memories, when people either remember things that didn't happen or remember them differently from the way they really were. It's more common than you might think, and Loftus shares some startling stories and statistics, and raises some important ethical questions we should all remember to consider. 

Memory-manipulation expert Elizabeth Loftus explains how our memories might not be what they seem -- and how implanted memories can have real-life repercussions. 

Elizabeth Loftus altered the course of legal history by revealing that memory is not only unreliable, but also mutable. Since the 1970s, Loftus has created an impressive body of scholarly work and has appeared as an expert witness in hundreds of courtrooms, bolstering the cases of defendants facing criminal charges based on eyewitness testimony, and debunking “recovered memory” theories popular at the time, as in her book The Myth of Repressed Memory: False Memories and Allegations of Sexual Abuse (with Katherine Ketcham).

Since then, Loftus has dedicated herself to discovering how false memories can affect our daily lives, leading her to surprising therapeutic applications for memory modification -- including controlling obesity by implanting patients with preferences for healthy foods.

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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Hi there! I'm so excited!!!

I just learned how to text!!!

New technologies bring with them a whole set of new problems...

Friday, September 20, 2013

Embrace Change

An investment in life is an investment in change... When you are changing all the time, you've got to continue to keep adjusting to change, which means that you are going to be constantly facing new obstacles.  That's the joy of living.  And once you're involved in the process of becoming, there is no stopping.
- Leo F. Buscaglia

"All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy, for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another."
- Anatole France

"Become a student of change. It is the only thing that will remain constant."
- Anthony D'Angelo'

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Manage Your Day-to-Day - Book

"Creation is in part merely the business of forgoing the great and small distractions." -EB White

Manage Your Day-to-Day: Build Your Routine, Find Your Focus, and Sharpen Your Creative Mind

  Jocelyn K. Glei



Stop doing busywork. Start doing your best work. Are you over-extended, over-distracted, and overwhelmed? Do you work at a breakneck pace all day, only to find that you haven’t accomplished the most important things on your agenda when you leave the office?
The world has changed and the way we work has to change, too. With wisdom from 20 leading creative minds, Manage Your Day-to-Day will give you a toolkit for tackling the new challenges of a 24/7, always-on workplace.
Featuring contributions from: Dan Ariely, Leo Babauta, Scott Belsky, Lori Deschene, Aaron Dignan, Erin Rooney Doland, Seth Godin,Todd Henry, Christian Jarrett, Scott McDowell, Mark McGuinness, Cal Newport, Steven Pressfield, Gretchen Rubin, Stefan Sagmeister, Elizabeth G. Saunders, Tony Schwartz, Tiffany Shlain, Linda Stone, and James Victore.

 Nice interview with Teresa Amabile on "Slowing the treadmill" to be more creative & get more done.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Overcome negative thinking and emotional barriers to life success

The Mindful Self-Express
The mind-body experiment.
by Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

Five Ways Living Mindfully Can Help You Reach Your Goals

Overcome negative thinking and emotional barriers to life success
Published on May 1, 2013 

Have you spent a lot of time and money on psychotherapy orself-help books, yet you still feel stuck in unhealthy habits?. Unfortunately, verbal insight and understanding do not always lead to changing self-destructive behaviors (e.g. addictions,procrastination, angry outbursts) or removing distress. Knowing why you are depressed, anxious, or feeling pain doesn't necessarily make you feel any better. However, if you get up and get active - walking, reaching out to friends, pursuing a hobby or creative activity, doing your yoga stretches, or even getting errands done, you will focus less on the negative feelings and they won't last as long. Understanding what is most meaningful to you in life (such as your health, family, or work) and committing to taking specific, manageable actions to achieve your goals in these areas can put you back in the driver's seat of your life.

Acceptance And Commitment Training

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (or ACT) is a short-term intervention used in psychotherapy or workplace settings. It combines principles of Mindfulness with techniques of motivation and behavior change. ACT can help you to break out of negative thought cycles, accept what you can't control, stop running away from pain, and be more able to tolerate risk, failure, and uncertainty to reap the rewards of a meaningful, engaged life. It can help your career and health by teaching you how to handle negative emotions and overcome procrastination.

Some core principles of ACT are:

(1) Experiencing the Present Moment Directly

Similar to Mindfulness, ACT therapists use exercises to help you remain present and focused on the breath or your present thoughts and feelings, rather than trying to avoid them. Feelings are momentary, changing experiences in our bodies and minds. However, because of childhoodlearning experiences, we often develop judgments about them and what it means about us that we have them - such as "You're depressed again - You're such a loser!" When you focus on and describe the direct physical sensations of pain or anxiety (e.g., my chest feels tight), rather than feeling helpless or trying to distract yourself, you may realize that they are not going to kill you and that they will eventually pass. Watching feelings rise and fall in your body, gives you a sense of them as transient experiences, rather than as who you are in essence.
(2) Being Willing to Be Where You Are

Acceptance is often confused with passivity. In ACT terms, acceptance means "being willing to experience the present moment, even if it's not what we would have chosen." This also means accepting your life experiences and history, realizing you can never completely get rid of or make up for experiences of suffering. At the same time, you have a choice about what you do with your life now. You do not have to be so limited by old ways of thinking. Like any habit, change takes time and effort. Therefore, you will likely be uncomfortable for a while. It takes time to change your brain pathways and to have other people notice you are different and behave differently towards you. Like losing a lot of weight, you have to work hard for a long time before seeing noticeable results. Being willing means you no longer avoid uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, or situations by zoning out, not showing up, addictions, anger, or procrastinating. If you want to be healthier, you first need to be able to look at and experience how unhealthy you are right now. At the same time, you can commit to doing what you need to do in small bits, each day, to be a little bit healthier. Lifting the veil of self-deception can go a long way towards getting you focused on the right track.

(3) Separating Your Self From Your Thoughts

Your thoughts, feelings, and sensations are not who you are. ACT Training includes mindfulness, imagery, and language-based exercises to help you connect with your "observing ego" so you can observe your thoughts and experiences from a more objective vantage point.. Although your thoughts feel true, they are not necessarily the whole truth, because they are biased by your expectations from past experiences and self-definition. You do not need to let your thoughts and feelings determine your behavior. You can choose how to behave, based on your direct experience (what you see, hear, feel - independent of your judgments about these events) and your core values. You may think about a thought: "Is it kind? Is it truthful?,.." and so on. Based on the answer, you may choose to take the thought seriously or let it pass on by. Rather than changing the content of your thoughts, you can choose to change how you interact with them Thinking you are stupid or fat does not make you stupid or fat - it is just a passing thought in your head.
(4) Defining Your Core Values

Core values are the things in life that are most meaningful to us and that enrich our lives. They include such things as "Being healthy," "Taking care of our families," "Being honest and accountable," or "Contributing to society." When people come to therapy, they are often so overwhelmed with distress, feelings of self-pity or anger, or struggles with pain oraddiction, that they have lost touch with what really makes them fulfilled. Even if they know "I want to be a good parent," their day-to-day behavior may not reflect this because they are preoccupied with seeking escape from daily stress, thoughts about past, painful events, or trying to prevent an anticipated future threat. ACT therapists/trainers use imagery and writing exercises to help clients define their individual core values and gain motivation to reconnect with activities and people that enhance these values in our lives.

(5) Committing to Motivated Action

To live a meaningful, authentic life, you need to take risks, get out into the world, and tolerate uncertainty and anxiety. Exercises focus on setting manageable, attainable, meaningful goals - committing to taking specific, small steps that get you closer to your larger goals. The focus is on taking action, not expecting a particular result, since outcomes may be at least partially out of our control. To be successful is not necessarily to always feel happy or pain-free, but to live a full life despite the anxiety or pain. By facing what you fear, the fear will eventually lessen, and, even if it doesn't, you will know you have done your best with what you have. This takes you out of the cycle of self-doubt, regret, and second-guessing yourself.

Who Can Benefit From ACT?

ACT, also known as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training, when used in workplace settings, is a short-term intervention approach that has been used with substance abusers, people suffering fromchronic pain and illness, patients with obsessive thoughts, anxiety, ordepression. ACT works well with clients or employees who are tired of letting uncontrollable symptoms rule and want to take a more active role in defining and directing their own lives. I use ACT principles and interventions with almost every client to help them tolerate uncontrollable, stressful situations and focus on what they can change. ACT can create a basis for hope and help you tolerate the pain of changing.

According to SAMHSA's Registry of Effective Programs,
"ACT has been shown to increase effective action; reduce dysfunctional thoughts, feelings, and behaviors; and alleviate psychological distress for individuals with a broad range of mental health issues (including DSM-IV diagnoses, coping with chronic illness, and workplace stress)."

For more information about ACT, go to this link:

Or watch this YouTube video by Dr Russ Harris:

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Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D. is a Clinical Psychologist, and expert on Mindfulness, Managing Anxiety, and Depression, Succeeding at Work,, and Mind-Body Health. Dr Greenberg provides workshops and speaking engagements for your organization and coaching and psychotherapy for individuals and couples

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Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.,  is a clinical and health psychologist with a private practice in Mill Valley, CA.  She also has an academic and research background and provides workshops for the public and health professionals. She helps clients and providers address the effects of life stress on relationships, self-care, health, career, and parenting. 

Dr Greenberg applies her knowledge of Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness, and Affect Regulation to promote growth and resilience.  She was a Professor at Alliant International University, San Diego and a Research Psychologist at the VA Medical Center, San Diego. She currently has a private clinical practice in Mill Valley, CA and is the psychologist for the Slim in Seven program at the Bay Clubs in Marin and San Francisco. 

She is an expert curator for Organized and has served on the Editorial Boards of Health Psychology and Annals of Behavioral Medicine and as a Special Interest Group Chair of Complementary and Alternative Medicine for the Society of Behavioral Medicine. She has published more than 50 research articles, chapters, and conference abstracts, in journals such as Pain, Archives of Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation, the Journal of Personality & Social Psychology, the Journal of Psychosomatic Research and Biofeedback & Self-Regulation.  

She was a reviewer of recent national guidelines for treatment of chronic pain. She has also contributed to Positive Psychology Explorng the Best in People (Praeger), the Handbook of Health Psychology & Behavioral Medicine (Guilford), and the Writing Cure (Guilford) among others. 

Born in South Africa, she came to the US in 1986 to study Clinical Psychology at Stony Brook, University.She subsequently completed Postdoctoral study in Health Psychology at the City University of New York. Missing the warm weather, she moved out to California, where she has lived happily ever since. She has a husband in biotech, a daughter in Elementary school and is an active, engaged parent. Her next life goal is to make her knowledge accessible via webcasts, e-books, seminars, and books.


Motivational quotes to get you inspired for life.

NOVEMBER 12, 2011 by   

Here is a list of the top 100 motivational quotes to get you inspired for life.
They include 100 quotes from Michael Jordan, Aristotle, Albert Einstein, Gandhi, Teddy Roosevelt, Mark Twain, Robert Frost, Henry Ford, Isaac Singer, Ralph Waldo Emerson, etc.:
1. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.
- Aristotle
2. The best way out is always through.
- Robert Frost
3. Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.
- William B. Sprague
4. Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
- Albert Einstein
5. Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.
- Henry Ford
6. I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
- Oprah Winfrey
7. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
- Michael Jordan
8. You must be the change you want to see in the world.
- Mahatma Gandhi
9. What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
- Goethe
10. You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.
- Zig Ziglar
11. Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.
- Mahatma Gandhi
12. Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.
- Napoleon Hill
13. Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.
- Truman Capote
14. Vision without action is daydream. Action without vision is nightmare.
- Japanese Proverb
15. In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing.
- Theodore Roosevelt
16. If you keep saying things are going to be bad, you have a chance of being a prophet.
- Isaac B. Singer
17. Success consists of doing the common things of life uncommonly well.
- Unknown
18. Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down.
- Charles F. Kettering, Engineer and Inventor
19. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
- Mark Twain
20. Losers visualize the penalties of failure. Winners visualize the rewards of success.
- Unknown
21. Some succeed because they are destined. Some succeed because they are determined.
- Unknown
22. Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want.
- Dan Stanford
23. Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.
- Albert Einstein
24. A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
- Hugh Downs
25. If you’re going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it, you might as well laugh about it now.
- Marie Osmond
26. Remember that happiness is a way of travel, not a destination.
- Roy Goodman
27. If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today.
- E. Joseph Cossman
28. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
29. We judge of man’s wisdom by his hope.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
30. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.
- Mark Twain
31. Age is an issue of mind over matter.  If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.- Mark Twain

31. Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.
- Mark Twain
32. Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.
- Mark Twain
33. Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
- Mark Twain
34. The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed.
- Richard B. Sheridan
35. Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
36. ”Act or accept.”
- Anonymous
37. Many great ideas go unexecuted, and many great executioners are without ideas. One without the other is worthless.
- Tim Blixseth
38. The world is more malleable than you think and it’s waiting for you to hammer it into shape.
- Bono
39. Sometimes you just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you.
- Dr Phil
40. Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.
- Stephen R. Covey
41. People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.
- Norman Vincent Peale
42. Whenever you find whole world against you just turn around and lead the world.
- Anonymous
43. Being defeated is only a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.
- Marilyn vos Savant, Author and Advice Columnist
44. I can’t understand why people are frightened by new ideas. I’m frightened by old ones.
- John Cage
45. Fall down seven times, get up eight.
- Japanese Proverb
46. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.
- Unknown
47. The best way to predict the future is to create it.
- Unknown
48. Anyone can do something when they WANT to do it. Really successful people do things when they don’t want to do it.
- Dr. Phil
49. There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.
- Dr. Denis Waitley
50. Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.
- Sir Winston Churchill
51. Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes but don’t quit.
- Conrad Hilton
52. Attitudes are contagious. Make yours worth catching.
- Unknown

53. Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
- John Wooden
54. There are only two rules for being successful. One, figure out exactly what you want to do, and two, do it.
- Mario Cuomo
55. Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
- Richard Bach
56. Vision doesn’t usually come as a lightening bolt. Rather it comes as a slow crystallization of life challenges that we one day recognize as a beautiful diamond with great value to ourselves and others.
- Dr. Michael Norwood

57. Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.
- Dr. Joyce Brothers
58. Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
- Samuel Beckett
59. Flops are a part of life’s menu and I’ve never been a girl to miss out on any of the courses.
- Rosalind Russell
60. Cause Change & Lead
Accept Change & Survive
Resist Change & Die
- Ray Norda, Chairman, Novell
61. Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you’re still trying, keep it up! You’re right on track.
- Matthew Keith Groves
62. An idea can turn to dust or magic, depending on the talent that rubs against it.
- Bill Bernbach
63. An obstacle is often a stepping stone.
- Prescott
64. Life is “trying things to see if they work”
Ray Bradbury
65. If you worry about yesterday’s failures, then today’s successes will be few.
66. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
Dennis P. Kimbro
67. We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
68. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
69. In matters of style, swim with the current;
in matters of principle, stand like a rock.
Thomas Jefferson
70. I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right.
Albert Einstein
71. Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great.
72. Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.
Mahatma Gandhi
73. ”You are what you think about all day long.” — Dr. Robert Schuller
74. What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say” — Ralph Waldo Emerson”
75. “Success is not to be measured by the position someone has reached in life, but the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.”
Booker T. Washington
76. ”Talent is formed in solitude, character in the bustle of the world.”
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
77. “To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.”
- Elbert Hubbard
78. If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up.
- J.M. Power
79. By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be boss and work twelve hours a day
- Robert Frost
80. “I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.”
- Maya Angelou
81. “The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.”
- William James
82. “When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’”
- Sydney Harris
83. “Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.”
- Richard L. Evans
84. “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.”
- Robert Frost
85. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt
86. Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.
- Seneca
87. Do first things first, and second things not at all.
- Peter Drucker.
88. The only people who find what they are looking for in life are the fault finders.
- Foster’s Law
89. Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it.
- Joe Clark
90. I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else.
- Winston Churchill
91. Positive anything is better than negative thinking.
- Elbert Hubbard
92. People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
93. Those who wish to sing, always find a song.
- Swedish Proverb
94. If you’re going through hell, keep going.
- Winston Churchill
95. The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
96. Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.
- Voltaire
97. Enduring habits I hate…. Yes, at the very bottom of my soul I feel grateful to all my misery and bouts of sickness and everything about me that is imperfect, because this sort of thing leaves me with a hundred backdoors through which I can escape from enduring habits.
- Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science, 1882
98. There is no education like adversity.
- Disraeli
99. He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.
- Friedrich Nietzsche
100. Adversity introduces a man to himself.
- Author Unknown
Reader contributions:
101. The secret to life is meaningless unless you discover it yourself.
- W. Somerset Maugham
102. Have the passion, take the action and magic will happen.
- Bar Rafaeli
103. If you’ve got it. use it. If you don’t got it, then get it!
- Reader 
104. Son, if you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to redo it?
- Reader 
105. Faith held solely is the begining of action.
- Reader  
106. Positivity is all about overlooking the negetive fact.
- Reader  
107. Life is all about getting up and doing.
- Reader 
108. You will never get lessons on swimming from a drowning man!
- Reader 
109. Life is not about ALL the wrong moves you made, Life is about the one right move that made ALL the difference.
- James Lockhart
110. Be humble enough to admit you’re not perfect, but determined enough to strive to be perfect.
- Babsie Burke (reader)
111. If you can’t sleep do not count the sheep, worship the Shepherd.
- Babsie Burke (reader)
112. Life is a journey, its not a race. Walk through it.
113. Everything happens for a reason, you only need to keep on editing your attitude and gratitude so as to sail through.
114. The measure of who we are is what we do with what we have. - anon.

Monday, August 12, 2013

Embrace Change

The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress.

– Charles F. Kettering

Friday, August 9, 2013

Get started quotes


Get started quotes

“The human race has been set up. Someone, somewhere, is playing a practical joke on us. Apparently, women need to feel loved to have sex. Men need to have sex to feel loved. How do we ever get started?”
 Billy Connolly quotes (Scottish Actor, b.1942)

“Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”
 Mark Victor Hansen quotes

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”
 Walt Disney quotes (American motion-picture Producer, pioneer of animated cartoon films. 1901-1966)

 “Anything you can do needs to be done, so pick up the tool of your choice and get started”
 Ben Linder quotes

“The capacity for hope is the most significant fact of life. It provides human beings with a sense of destination and the energy to get started.”
 Norman Cousins quotes (American Essayist and Editor, long associated with the Saturday Review. 1912-1990)

“The search for the perfect venture can turn into procrastination. Your idea may or may not have merit. The key is to get started.”

 “So many fail because they don't get started - they don't go. They don't overcome inertia. They don't begin.”
 W. Clement Stone quotes (American best selling Author and Founder of Combined Insurance Co (now a part of Aon Corp.), 1902-2002)

“When I wake up in the morning, I just can't get started until I've had that first, piping hot pot of coffee. Oh, I've tried other enemas...”
 Emo Philips quotes

  “The capacity for hope is the most significant fact of life. It provides human beings with a sense of destination and the energy to get started.”
 Norman Cousins quotes (American Essayist and Editor, long associated with the Saturday Review. 1912-1990)

  “The search for the perfect venture can turn into procrastination. Your idea may or may not have merit. The key is to get started.”
“So many fail because they don't get started - they don't go. They don't overcome inertia. They don't begin.”
 W. Clement Stone quotes (American best selling Author and Founder of Combined Insurance Co (now a part of Aon Corp.), 1902-2002)

“When I wake up in the morning, I just can't get started until I've had that first, piping hot pot of coffee. Oh, I've tried other enemas...”
 Emo Philips quotes
“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.”
 Jalal ad-Din Rumi quotes (Persian Poet and Mystic, 1207-1273)

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
 Maria Robinson  
“The ladder of success must be set upon something solid before you can start to climb”

“Love, you know, is a funny thing; But the funniest thing about it - Is you never can tell if it is love - Until you start to doubt it”
  “The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.”
 Mark Twain quotes (American Humorist, Writer and Lecturer. 1835-1910)

 “Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process.”
 Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational audio programs for Business and Life. )

  “When things go wrong, you'll find they usually go on getting worse for some time; but when things once start going right they often go on getting better and better.”
 C.S. Lewis quotes (British Scholar and Novelist. 1898-1963)

 “A person starts dying when they stop dreaming.”
 Brian Williams quotes (American pitcher (Detroit Tigers, Astros), b.1969)

“A project is complete when it starts working for you, rather than you working for it.”

 “You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, 'I release the need for this in my life'.”
 Wayne Dyer quotes (American motivational Speaker and Author of self-help best selling books. b.1940)